Healthy Relationship Talk: 15 things that my partner does for me.

The Law of Attraction is something I fully believe in. What we think becomes our reality. I sometimes focus a lot on the unhealthy or "toxic" signs of relationships. I forget to mention and manifest the healthy signs and traits that a partner can do for us each and every day.

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The Law of Attraction: What we think becomes our reality.

Here are 15 healthy things that my amazing, fun-loving, supportive partner does for me each and everyday.

1) He sees practical needs

I hear it all the time from my clients, "he doesn't do anything without me asking him". Or "Why can't he just help without me telling him what to do?". For me, this is one of the most helpful and supportive traits in a partnership. To see practical needs and execute a solution.

Drew can see a "need" and he takes care of it. He picks things up or starts cooking dinner. He takes out the trash when it is full and empties the dishwasher when it is clean. These practical needs help me feel like I am in a partnership and I can trust and rely on him to do what is best for our family.

2) He complements me

He lets me know daily that he is attracted to me (both internal and external).

He finds me interesting and lets me know that what I have to say is important to him. Which shows me I am loved just as I am.

No matter what I look like he tells me I am beautiful. For me, this is nice to hear right now because I am pregnant and feel extremely uncomfortable in my body. It is wonderful to know that he sees me as beautiful no matter how I may feel about myself at that moment.

3) He knows me

He knows me and knows how to comfort me. When something is wrong he makes sure I stop and vent because he knows I need that. If I am tired he knows to tell me to sit down and rest. If I am cranky he knows I am hungry so he makes sure I eat something.

He knows me and can make sure to comfort me and support me how I need to be supported.

4) He listens

He listens to what I have to say with interest and no distractions. He listens and listens and listens for as long as it takes for me to vent. He does not try to add his opinion or his two cents or solve anything.

And after he listens to it ALL, he validates what I am feeling.

5) He never embarrasses me

So many couples talk about each other or will yell at each other in front of others. Drew has a gentle way of helping me vs embarrassing me if I say something hurtful or inappropriate. He never judges me or puts me down in front of people. He knows when to poke fun and when to stop.

6) He is super fun and joyful

We are best friends. I have so much fun when we are together and I always look forward to spending time with him because of the joy he brings to every part of his life.

I am even excited to do taxes with him because I know he will make it a blast. His spirit is so uplifting and I do not take this quality for granted. He make me want to be more like this in everything I do too.

7) He is honest with me

He has a very soft way of being honest with me. I can be a very direct person, I have boundaries and laws for my life that support me. Sometimes having this type of personality is wonderful, but sometimes it can hurt people. Drew has an amazing ability to be honest with me in these times. And he does this to benefit me and never judges me.

8) He is self-sacrificing

If you know Drew at all you know he will drop anything and help someone or be with someone in need. He gives and gives and gives. In my eyes, it is the most incredible way to show people you care. I know there is nothing he wouldn't do for our family or friends. Seeing the way he treats people makes me a better person and allows me to grow.

9) He gives me security

I am a powerful woman. I have done everything for myself for my entire life. Drew can provide security to me that I have never experienced before. He is open, sharing, and supportive. He knows how to appreciate and support my strength.

10) Takes care of me

He makes sure I don't keep things in. He tells me to sit and relax. He holds me when I am sad. He feeds us all when I am too tired. He is the backbone of our home because he knows how to care for me.

11) Loves me in my love language

The 5 Love Languages include words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, acts of service, and receiving gifts.

My love language is most definitely acts of service. The small things he does throughout the day to help support me and show me he loves me. Some examples of this are making coffee at night so I wake up with a fresh cup in the morning. filling up the gas in the car. Straightening up the living room because he knows the clutter makes me stressed.

The small and large things he does to show me he loves me makes me feel so special.

12) He is kind

The way he talks to people and how people just welcome him in, is truly beautiful. His kindness isn't just saved for me, he shines it where ever he goes and gives it to everyone he meets. He makes me want to be more like that.

13) He is trustworthy

I know whatever I tell him is between us. I trust him with every vulnerability I have because I know he won't tell a soul. He will never use what i tell him against me in a fight or disagreement. He protects my darkness and holds it with me.

14) He touches me physically

He hugs me, leads me through doorways with his hand on my back, holds my hand when we are walking. Even if it is sitting on the sofa watching TV, we make sure to touch. It isn't easy for me sometimes to be physical. But for him, physical touch is his love language. And because I know this about him, I make an effort to be more physical.

15) Never compares me to anyone

We do this enough to ourselves as women and in the world. Always comparing ourselves to others or situations. Drew never compares me or our relationship to anyone else. He honors and enjoys who I am and what I bring to his life.

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