How to deal with a toxic partner

Dealing with a toxic partner is one of the most soul-crushing task a person can deal with on a day-to-day basis. Every day it feels like you are taking 1 step forward and 5 steps back. It feels like you are not heard. It feels like your life is going nowhere. It feels like you are stuck.

So then how do you wake up every day knowing you have to deal with a toxic partner?

This is a question that is very difficult to answer. The short answer is you leave the relationship. But the long answer is sometimes you have no idea that your partner is toxic.

You may spend endless hours trying to improve yourself. Reading relationship books, going to therapy to fix yourself, isolating yourself from friends and family to protect them from the harmful energy of your partner. All while not understanding that staying in this partnership is slowly making you lose yourself.

Staying is a choice that you are choosing. Maybe because of fear of being alone, abandonment, or finical ties.

The truth is there is no reason to stay in a toxic relationship. The step toward waking up each day and feeling uplifted and joyful again is to take the leap and walk away from anyone or anything that drains you. Period.

Here are 10 signs that your partner is toxic for you:

1. You go silent when you are around them
2. You walk on eggshells when they are around so to not upset them in any way
3. They never take responsibility or apologize for anything
4. They put you down
5. There are more bad times than good times
6. You make up excuses for them and their behavior
7. You are a different person around your friends, family, and at work than you are around your partner.
8. Always feel drained
9. Feel resentful
10. You want to go to a therapist of a coach but your partner refuses.

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Living with someone toxic will leave you placing your desires aside to please someone who may never be able to be happy. Your only job in life is to make yourself happy.

If you think you are in a toxic relationship it may be time to reach-out for support and set up a plan to move through it. Whether it is a marriage or a short relationship everyone deserves to be in a supportive and loving partnership.

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